The Stages of Self-refinement
8.1. Prevention
Observance of psychological
hygiene and prevention of sins and obscene moral deeds are the best and easiest
stages of self-refinement. At these stages the self is not yet quite
contaminated with sins, still possesses his natural purity and enlightenment,
and is better prepared for performance of good deeds and acquiring of good
morals. He has not yet blackened and darkened, Satan has not yet made his entry
inside him, and has not accustomed to evil deeds. Because, of these factors he
is better prepared for quitting sinful deeds.
Teenagers and young people, if,
decide for purifying their souls and quitting sinful and moral absence deeds,
it is relatively easier for them, because, they still are at the preventing
stage which is easier than quitting a chronic habit. Therefore, the youth,
teens, and even childhood years are the best period for self-refinement.
Likewise, so far as a man has not tasted the pleasure of a particular sin, he
is in a better position not to commit it. Therefore, children, youths, and
those people who not yet been contaminated with certain sinful deeds must
appreciate this stage as something very important, guard themselves not to
commit sin at all, and should maintain their state of purity and cleanness,
because prevention is always better than cure.
They should better understand
this important point that if they sinned and acquired obscene moral characteristics
within their existence, than in that case they would have opened the gate for
Satan's entry within their hearts, and onward, quitting a sin for them would
become extremely difficult as compared to earlier. Satan and imperious-self,
therefore, always try to present sinning for once and twice, something as minor
and insignificant, so that by this mean they could increase their influence
and make the self addicted to sinning.
Therefore, a man who is
seriously concerned about his salvation and welfare must seriously resists
self's whims and passions and should not allow his self to commit a sin even
for once. The Commander of the Faithful, Imam ' Ali (A) said:
"Don’t let your self allow to make an evil
commitment or indulgence into evil deeds." -Gharar al-Hukm, vol. 2, p-801.
And said:
"Dominate the passions of your self, before he
becomes stronger, because, once he becomes stronger, he will take-over your
control pulling you in every direction as he pleases, and in that situation you
will not be able to offer resistance against him." -Gharar al-Hukm, p-511.
And said:
"Habit is like an enemy
who prefers his hegemony over you.” -Gharar al-Hukm, p-33.
And said:
“Addiction becomes second nature for a man.” -Gharar al-Hukm, p-26.
And said:
"Dominate your self’s passions like an enemy
dominates his enemy; wage a war against him like an enemy attacks his enemy;
may be, through these means you might be able to dominate him." -Gharar al-Hukm, p-509.
And said:
"Not to commit sin is better than repentance,
because, many a times, an hour of carnal pleasures results in perpetual anxiety
and distress. Death is a mean for discovering the scandalous nature of this
world, which does not leave any pleasure left for an intelligent and aware person."
-al-Kafi, vol. 2, p-451.
Imam al-Sadiq (A) said:
"Before the soul departs from your body, do not
allow your self to perform harmful deeds,. endeavor for achieving self's
freedom the way you make efforts for earning your living. Because, the same
self will be mortgaged against the deeds (on the Day of Judgement).” -al-Kafi, vol. 2, p-455.
God-Almighty has said in the
Holy Quran.
"But as for him who feared to stand before his Lord
and restrained his soul from lust. Lo! the Garden will be his home.” -the Holy- Quran (79:40-41)
Any how, the path of prevention
is the best as well as the easiest path, and therefore, as much as a man
endeavors seriously in this path is worthy of merit. How blessed is a young
man, who subdues his imperious-self, does not allow him to indulge in sinful
deeds, and with a purified and refined self follows the straight path of human
exaltation ascending towards God's Nearness, till the very end of his life.
8.2. Sudden Renunciation
If the self has already crossed
the preservation stage by becoming contaminated with sins and moral vices, the
alternative is to resort to cleansing, which consists of several methods. One
of the best method of cleansing is the internal revolution and a complete sudden
renunciation. A person who has become contaminated with sins and other moral
vices may decide once to return towards God-Almighty through repentance
-washing and purifying the heart from all sorts of sins and vices. With a
single bold definite decision, one force out devils from the heart by shutting
the doors for their entry forever, thus, making the heart's dwelling readied
for the descend of God's favorite angels and Divine illumination.
Having inflicted a devastating
severe blow the imperious-self and Satan should be subdued thoroughly, and the
power to rule over the self must be taken into hands firmly and forever. There
were many such lucky individuals who were blessed with Divine Favor of
attaining self-refinement by means of internal revolution within their inner
existence, and remained faithful to their commitment till the last breath of
their lives.
This internal spiritual
revolution or awakening (or being reborn) occurs in the lives of peoples
sometimes hearing a short sentence of a preacher and scholar of moral ethics,
hints given by a Divine Guide, happening of an unusual shattering tragedy,
participation in a gathering of prayer and supplication, and listening to
verses, traditions, and pondering for a few minutes. Sometimes, a minor incident
like a sparking illuminates the heart's dwelling. There were individuals who
were blessed to receive Divine-Grace to attain self-refinement through internal
spiritual revolution in their lives, and thus, joined the ranks of wayfarers
journeying towards God-Almighty. Following are few examples:
Bashar Hafi, was one of the most
famous pious and religious personalities of his period. In his biography it has
been written: Earlier he was an aristocrat who was continuously busy in world
amusements and sexual pleasures round the clock; his house was the center of
carnal pleasures, drinking, dancing, and loud music. But later on repented and
joined the ranks of most distinguished ascetic and pious persons. Following is
the story of his repentance:
"One day, a maid came out
side the door of his house for emptying the garbage can; coincidentally at the
same time Imam al-Kazim (A) was passing by through the alley near his house and
the sound of loud music reached to his ears. He asked the maid:
'Does the owner of this house is
a free man or servant (of God)?'
'Of course! He is a free man as
well as a master. ' Replied the maid.
'You are right, because if he
was a servant -must have been afraid of his master and should not have been so
bold in committing sins '. Replied the Imam.
"The maid returned back to
the house. Her master, who was busy in drinking asked the maid:
'What is the reason of your
delay?'
"The maid narrated for her
master the encounter outside with an unidentified person and the details of
questions and answers exchanged between them. 'What he said ultimately?' Asked
the master. His last words were: 'You are right! Your master is a free man,
because if he would have considered himself God's servant, then he would have
been afraid of his Master and would not have shown such boldness in committing
sins ,. Replied the maid.
"This short sentence of
Imam al-Kazim (A) like a sharp arrow pierced Bashar's heart and like a fresh
illuminated and metamorphosed his inner existence. He left his drinking and
came out, bare footed running fast in order to reach the un-identified person.
Ultimately reaching near him, he said:
"'Oh my master! I beg God's
as well as your pardon. Yes! I was and still am God's servant but had forgotten
my servitude; because, of that acted so boldly in committing sins, but right
now I have discovered my servitude, and want to repent for my past sins and
omissions. Will God-Almighty accept my repentance ? I "'Yes! God-Almighty,
will accept your repentance, will for give your past sins, and you must quit
sinning for ever. I Replied the Imam.
"Bashar repented and become
one of the most famous pious and saintly personality of his time, and in order
to show his thank for this blessing used to walk bare-footed till the end of
his life.”
-Muntah
al-Amal, vol. 2, p-126.
Abu Basir narrated:
"One of the agent of a
tyrant king used to live in my neighborhood, who used to acquire his living
through illegal means and had turned his home into a center of carnal
pleasures, dancing, drinking, and music. Naturally, living next door to him was
annoying and painful for me, but there was no alternative except to bear,
because my repeated advises have not produced any improvement in his behavior.
Finally, one day, when I pressed him hard to change his life style, he replied:
"'I am a prisoner of Satan,
because of my addiction to eating, drinking, and sinning, I cannot quite them.
I am sick but can do nothing for treatment. You are a good neighbor for me, but
I am a bad neighbor for you. I am helpless and have become a prisoner of self's
whims and passions, and don't know how to get myself out of this situation.
When, you visit Imam al-Sadiq (A) in the near future, please plead may case
with him, may be he will suggest a solution for my rescue.
Abu Basir continued: "I was
deeply influenced with his words, and remained patient for a while till an
opportunity aroused for me to go to Madina for seeing Imam al-Sadiq (A). When I
saw Imam (A) I narrated the story of my neighbor for him. The Imam replied:
'When you returned back to Madina, your neighbor will come to see you, then you
must tell him that Jafar bin Muhammad had said:
'Do not commit sins, so that I
could guarantee Paradise for you.’
Abu Basir said:
"When I returned back to Kufa after completing the
pilgrimage, people came to see me including my next door neighbor. After
exchanging formalities of greetings and inquiring about my trip when he wanted
to leave, I gave him a hint that I have to discuss something in private. When
other people left my house, I said to him that I narrated his story to Imam
(A), and he replied:
'Upon your return to Kufa, that
man will come to see you. Tell him that Jafar bin Muhammad said:
'Quit sinning so that I could
guarantee Paradise for you:'
"This short message of Imam
(A) so much touched his heart that he started crying and said to me: 'Do you
swear by God that Imam said these words for me ?
"I swore by God and assured
him that these are the exact words of Imam for him. He replied: 'These words
are enough for me. , "He said these words and left my house. For several
days I did not hear any news about him. One day, he send a message for me to
visit him at his home. I accepted his invitation and went to his house, he
opened the door and hiding behind the door said: 'Oh Abu Basir! Every thing
which I acquired through forbidden means have returned to their owners,. Right
now, I possess absolutely nothing even a pair of clothing to cover myself and
that is why I am standing behind the door. I have quitted all sins and have truly
implemented the Imam's message in my life.
"Abu Basir said:
'I was indeed happy to learn
about his repentance and changed condition, and wondered about the impact of
Imam' s short message upon him. I returned back to my home and arranged some
clothing and some quantity of food and brought it for him. After a while he
again called me and when I went to see him, found him sick. He remained in this
condition for quite some time, and during this period I frequently visited him
to take care of his needs, but unfortunately treatment did not produce any
improvement and his condition continued to deteriorate day by day till one day
I found him in precarious condition hovering between life and death, while I
was sitting on his side, and he was taking his last breaths, he suddenly opened
his eyes and said:
'Oh Abu Basir! Imam al-Sadiq (A)
had fulfilled his promise. He said these words and left for his eternal abode.
"After sometimes I had the
opportunity for going to Hijaz for Hajj Pilgrimage, and also to see Imam
al-Sadiq (A). When I was about to enter in his presence and my one foot was
inside the hall while another one still in the yard, the Imam said: 'Oh Abu
Basir! I have .fulfilled the promise for your neighbor and the Paradise which I
had guaranteed for him, was bestowed upon him. ' "
-Muntaha
al-Amal, vol. 2, p-86.
There were and still are such
individuals, who with single definite bold decision and act of bravery, subdued
the imperious-self and took over the command of their affairs in their own
hands, and with the occurrence of a spiritual internal revolution polished and
refined their hearts from all sort of impurities and vices. Therefore, the
above stories indicate that following the above path is possible for all of us.
The Commander of the Faithful,
Imam' Ali (A) said:
"For quitting habits subdue the self: by struggling
against his whims and passions; may be you will succeed in making him your
prisoner." -Gharar al-Hukm, p-508.
And said:
"Best of the worships are achieving domination over
habits.” -Gharar al-Hukm, p-176.
Imam al-Baqir (A) said:
"One the Day of
Resurrection all eyes shall be crying except the following three kinds:
First: The eyes of some one
who spent his nights awake in worshipping for the pleasure of God-Almighty.
Second: The eyes of some one
who shed tears, because, of fear from God-Almighty.
Third: The eyes of some one
who prevented them from looking forbidden things for the pleasure of
God-Almighty.” -al-Kafi, vol. 2, p-80.
Imam al-Sadiq (A) said:
"God-Almighty said to Prophet Moses (A) through
revelation that nothing is more effective in attaining my nearness as avoidance
of forbidden things. 'The Paradise of Eden' will be bestowed upon them, and no
one else would be allowed to enter therein” -al-Kafi, vol. 2, p-80.
Of course, it must be admitted
that self-domination and total avoidance of sin is not an easy task, but still
with foresight, self- awareness, decisiveness, and pondering it might not be so
difficult, considering the fact that one will be supported and strengthened
with Divine Assistance as promised in the Holy Quran:
"As for those who strive in Our (cause) -We will
certainly guide them to our paths. For verily God is with those who do
right." -the Holy- Quran (29:69)
8.3. Gradual Renunciation
If we discovered that our inner
existence does not have the courage and boldness required for quitting all sins
at once, we may decide for gradual renunciation in stages. This procedure
consists of beginning with quitting few sins at a time as a test of our will
power, and the struggle should be continued till we become victorious over the
self cutting the roots of those sins forever. Later on, the same procedure
should be repeated regarding some other sins and should be continued till the
final victory is achieved.
Care should be taken that the
sins quitted earlier should not be repeated at all. Obviously, renunciation of
each sin makes the imperious-self and Satan weaker in the same proportion; the
place of each devil, forced out shall be immediately replaced by the entry of
God's angel, and similarly the amount of darkness removed from the heart's
surface shall be replaced with whiteness and illumination in the same
proportion.
The abstinence from sins should
be continued, in this manner, till self-perfection and final victory in
controlling the self's desires is achieved. It is possible that while
practicing abstinence of few sins at a time, we might reach to the limit, where
we feel to have the necessary will power and determination to quit all sins at
a time like sudden at once renunciation, in which case this golden opportunity
should be utilized taking the decision to refrain from all sins.
By forcing out the Satan, the
imperious-self should be subdued by allocating the heart's dwelling for
God-Almighty and his favorite angels. If we struggle and endeavor to achieve
the above cherished goal, we will certainly be victorious. Self-struggle is
exactly like waging a war against an enemy. A worrier must continuously watch over
his enemy's movement, evaluate his own strength compared with enemy's
resources, must strive for strengthening his forces, and by utilization of
suitable opportunities must attack his enemy inflicting devastating blows,
thus, annihilating his soldiers completely or forcing them out of self's
kingdom.