Immunity
from mistrust is the requisite of a safe community
For making a
safe community, first of all security is required, because without security,
freedom is not possible, and in this case, mental, corporeal, material and
spiritual capitals are not activated, as capitals always take refuge to secure
points and escape unsafe environments!
However, the
limits of security are not restricted to life and property, and more important
than them is security in view of reputation and protection of individuals'
social personality.
On the other
hand, another security is needed for completion of above triple securities that
unfortunately, material rules are not able to provide it, that is, "mental
security" as the most important one in some aspects!
Mental security has two parts:
1- Security
of everybody in his own mind setting, and in other words "mental tranquility":
that is to say in mental and spiritual view, a man is in a position that
disturbing forces do not press upon him from each side, and he is not supposed
to rush of various disturbing thoughts and serious mental storms. Rather, he may
have a tranquil spirit free from any anxiety, discomfort and confusion.
2- Security
in view of judgements of others: that is to say others do not lay rush of their
thoughts as well as bad and inappropriate judgements on a man in their own
mind's setting, and one's respect and reputation is preserved even in the
setting of others' mind. Of course, discussion about each of these securities
needs long talks. Herein, we only want to discuss about the latter type that is
security in view of judgements of others.
It goes
without saying that what is possible to provide in view of rules and materialist
governments, with connivance of their other faults, is security in life,
financial and somehow social reputation respects (of course as far as it is
possible to assess the effects of its damage in view of materialistic and legal
rules).
But, mental
security in both parts, specially being safe from bad judgements of others is
only possible through divine doctrines and heavenly religions, as we know the
areas of heart and mind are out of access of such rules and executive forces
generally having a material aspect, and lacking the least impression on these
parts. Only religious beliefs and ethical principles, particularly in Islam,
containing extensive and considerable instructions for achieving this objective,
as one of its great privileges, can penetrate into these areas and make it safe.
Quran explicitly instructs the believers:
(يا اَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا
اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيراً مِنَ الظَّنِّ اِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ اِثْمٌ).
O believers,
eschew much suspicion, some suspicion is a sin.(91)
The phrase
"much suspicion" may indicate that a major part or most of the suspicions of
people about each other are "evil ones", and thereby Quran warns people about
the great risk threatening their security in the minds of others, and has
introduced it as a "general affection site".
However, the
phrase "some suspicion is a sin", considering its previous phrase, may indicate
that suspicions of people about each other may be partly based on the reality,
but surely a part of them is against reality, as a sin and disobedience. Thus,
intellect orders to avoid all types of suspicion for not being affected to this
part.
In the
Islamic traditions too, it is so emphasized on avoidance from suspicion on the
believers that we read in a tradition from Prophet S.A.:
«اِنَّ اللهَ حَرَّمَ مِنَ الْمُسْلِمِ دَمَهُ وَ مالَهُ وَ
عِرْضَهُ وَ اَنْ يُظَنَّ بِهِ ظَنَّ السُّوءِ».
God has
forbidden blood, wealth, reputation and suspicion about a Moslem.(92)
This
tradition is particularly noteworthy since it has placed security in four
aspects (financial, life, reputation, and mental) besides each other, and has
forbidden all of them in a single phrase.
Sources of
suspicion and pessimism
Suspicion
and pessimism in mental view may appear sometimes lightly and sometimes acutely
and severely, that is as a mental disease - and anyway it could be the effect of
various causes, including:
1- It often
happens that source of suspicion is the sense of revenge and malice and envy,
and since a man can not take vengeance practically on the other person, and or
express it by his tongue, so he retreats to the areas of mind and heart, and
causes a sedition there, trumps up him, and judges and rebukes and blames him,
and thereby seeks relief of his mind. That is to say whatsoever he could not
find outwardly, he seeks in his mind and imaginations, and on this account, and
he feels a sort of false enjoyment and tranquility from his action.
This
originates from a sort of "subjectivism" and "mental escape from realities" and
"resorting to fancy" which is proved today in psychoanalysis. The sense does not
appertain to this case. Rather, all cases in which man's desires are not
satiated outwardly, and retreat to unconscious inner sense as repressed, man
seeks for visionary and fanciful substitutes in order to fill the vacuum created
in that respect. Sometimes, he seeks them in the dreamy world (a part of dreams
are the effect of this cause).
And
sometimes he seeks them in the world of "poetic imaginations" and "dreams in
wakefulness", and for this reason, the able poets in whose poems there are
affection, enthusiasm, influence and mirth, are those who in addition to poetic
talent, have faced with the lost, disappointments and failures, fiery kindness'
and unsuccessful loves, and have sought their lost and beloved one in the world
of imaginations among the poetic masterstrokes and literary niceties, and
thereby their imagination power has extremely developed.
In brief,
"mental escape towards fancy" is the source of a lot of mental events, including
suspicion, pessimism and mistrust.
2-
Sometimes, the source of suspicion is impurity and taint of man, as too much
optimism somewhen originates from the purity and serenity of a man. That is to
say a man assumes the others good or bad based on the principle of "self
comparison". This is particularly apparent in low knowledge and simple persons.
3- Excusing
or reducing one's own punishment in the court of conscience is also one of the
other causes of suspicion, because in this way he tries to create some partners
for his offences, and suspects on the others for justifying his own ill deeds,
and showing them less effective and more usual, and saying that I am not the
only one being involved in this state.
4- Suspicion
may originate from pride and selfishness, because such people intend to show
themselves superior to the others in any way, and so try to create some weak
points for the others in the environment of their mind, and devaluate them
through different probabilities, and elevate their own value.
5-
Educational environment and suggestions of parents and teacher are also
important causes of pessimism and suspicion.
6-
Association with unrighteous individuals too is one of the causes of suspicion,
because the criterion for general judgements of man is often a defective
induction which he makes about the individuals dealing with them, as judgements
of persons about the people of a city or a village or a country is based on the
special individuals having contact with them.
If the
associates of a man are unrighteous, he will naturally become pessimistic to all
people.
It is
mentioned in Islamic traditions:
«مُجالَسَةُ الاَْشْرارِ تُورِثُ سُوءَ الظَّنِّ
بِالاَْخْيارِ».
Association
with evildoers causes suspicion in the righteous.(93)
7- Sometimes
suspicion has a real source, that is when corruption dominates on the people of
a certain time or place, so that a man becomes suspicious to every thing based
on this intellectual principle that "Suspicion connects everything to its
popular sample" «الظَّنُّ يُلْحِقُ الشَيْءَ بِالاَْعَمِّ
الاَْغْلَبِ».
Social
losses of mistrust
Social
losses of this moral vice are too much and its undesirable effects are
widespread and extensive, such as:
1- Suspicion
causes social misunderstanding, as those suffering from this condition, look
everything pessimistically, and involve in numerous mistakes in recognizing the
situation of individuals, events and incidents, real causes and motives of the
activities occurring in the society, and live in an dreamy world against what
really exist, and this "misunderstanding of realities" certainly causes
retardation, non exploitation of opportunities and valuable individuals and
failure before the events.
2- Suspicion
and pessimism are the greatest hindrance for social cooperation as well as unity
and solidarity of hearts, and lead man to an individual life, solitude,
isolation and individualism and the vices caused by these attributes. Suspicion
does not let man trust on the other and find the basis of cooperation with him,
and solve the problems with his assistance.
3- Suspicion
causes man to spy about the others and as we already referred, spying is the
source of slander and its related vices. Holy Quran too has indicated to this
reality in verse 12, Chambers sura.
4- Mistrust
is the source of enmities, and sometimes, it is the main cause of bloody wars
and battles. There are a lot of families, which are dissociated by mistrust, and
there are a lot of competent and dignified men who are killed for mistrust about
them! And sometimes suspicion has illuminated the flame of great wars. We read
in the occasion of revelation of the noble verse:
(اِنْ جاءَكُمْ فاسِقٌ بِنَباء
فَتَبَيَّنُوا اَنْ تُصِيبُوا قَوْماً بِجَهالَة فَتُصْبِحُوا عَلى ما فَعَلْتُمْ
نادِمِينَ).
If an
ungodly man comes to you with a tiding, make clear, lest you afflict a people
unwittingly, and then repent of what you have done.
When
suspicion and pessimism of "Valid Ebne Aghabeh" was about to cause destruction
of a tribe, and Holy Quran prevented this great tragedy through instructing for
clarification and investigation.(94)
5- Suspicion
extinguishes kindness and friendship, and develops hypocrisy and dissimulation
among friends, because such person has to affect friendship with his friends
apparently, while his interior is not so, and has a mistrust on them, and this
behavior leads to development of spirit of hypocrisy and dissimulation in him.
In summary,
the social vices and losses of suspicion and mistrust are more than what are
usually supposed, and what we said hereabove is actually a part of these vices.
Individual
losses of suspicion
In addition
to social losses, suspicion and mistrust have a lot of irrecoverable losses to
some important parts of which we will refer hereunder:
1- Mistrust
is the source of spirit distress and torture of body, as well as anxiety and
worry. Pessimistic people are often worried, and suffer for their imaginations
about the individuals and events. They escape association with individuals,
which is one of the normal and effective means of spiritual mirth, because they
assume utterances or actions of people as jests and quips for themselves!
They fear of
confabulation, which is a useful means for relieving pains and distresses,
because they think that it may cause disclosure of their secrets and or other
problems! And on this account, they are often depressed, mirthless and sad, and
gradually become a useless and idle being.
If this
condition of "mistrust" is intensified in man, it will become so serious that he
is afraid of everything and everyone, sees all events harmful, assumes normal
deeds of individuals as plans against himself, and supposes everybody determined
in destruction or trouble of himself.
Obviously,
this condition should be included among the mental diseases and out of ethics.
Basically,
all moral vices are related to ethics until they have not passed the normal
limits, and only moral trainers should treat them. But when they are abnormal,
they are considered as a disease, and out of subject of ethic. Excessive envies,
excessive prides, excessive spites, excessive blatancies, and such like are all
included in this part.
It is
interesting that in the Hypocrites sura, while mentioning the conditions of
hypocrites, the issue of suspicion and mistrust are accounted among their
attributes and it says: they are so suffering from suspicion that:
(... يَحْسَبُونَ كُلَّ صَيْحَة
عَلَيْهِمْ).
They think
every cry is against them.(95)
And this is
one of their worldly punishments.
Of course,
this type of suspicion is normal for evil doers, as based on the principle of
"self comparison", they suppose the others are aware of their situation, and are
going to punish or take vengeance on them, and consequently they always fear.
2- Mistrust
about the "people" sometimes leads to mistrust and suspicion on the Creator, and
also is transmitted to the basis of man's religious beliefs. Sometimes, they
suspect on "Divine Justice" and sometimes in "Divine Power"!
They may
also doubt in invitation of divine prophets, and in the depths of their heart,
assume their invitation as a sort of histrionics for domination on people and
attraction of commons, although they may apparently be faithful to the religious
principles.
Non
submission of most of evil doers and hypocrites to the invitation of prophets
may have been caused thereof.
3-
Pessimistic people are often deprived from the inner purity, because they are
always slandering about the others in their heart, and thereby some of ethics
scholars have called suspicion "slander with heart".
This was a
part of individual losses of suspicion and pessimism.
Ways of
countering with suspicion
First of
all, there is a problem in this discussion that should be solved, that is:
Most often,
suspicion is not a freewill affair to be avoided. Rather, in most cases, when
observing a vision, or hearing an utterance, or remembering a memory (with
special mental backgrounds about the other person), a suspicion appears
unwillingly in man's mind. So, how it is possible to avoid it?
The
following well-known tradition too proves this sense:
«ثَلاثٌ لا يَسْلُمُ مِنْها اَحَدٌ: اَلطِّيَرَةُ وَ الْحَسَدُ
وَ الظَّنُّ».
There are
three things that no one is secure from them: forebode, envy and suspicion.
The
researchers have paced different ways for solving this problem:
1- Some
believe that suspicion is not forbidden instinctively, and express the famous
prophetic tradition as their proof:
«ثَلاثٌ فِي الْمُؤْمِنِ لا يُسْتَحْسَنَّ وَ لَهُ مِنْهُنَّ
مَخْرَجٌ، فَمَخْرَجُهُ مِنْ سُوءِ الظَّنِّ اَنْ لا يُحَقِّقَهُ».
There are
three unfavorable things in the believer, and it is possible for him to escape
them, and it is possible to escape suspicion through not giving a follow-up to
it.(96)
2- Some
others say avoiding suspicion refers to not giving a follow-up to it heartily
and outwardly. In other words, he shall not establish "heart conclusion", which
is freewill, in his heart, and not to feel a hate and disgust to the suspected
person, and not to change his relations and behavior with him outwardly. Thus,
non-realization of suspicion refers to the same wide sense of word including
mind and outward.
There is no
doubt that these two are both against the appearance of the verse for avoiding
suspicion and the traditions mentioned in this part, because they have forbidden
suspicion itself, and there is not any hearty establishment aspect to be
evitable.
But the
issue of belief and hearty establishment is a freewill affair (because belief
and faith is something else than knowledge, as it has been already proved), but
hate and disgust are not so.
3- The
reality is that although suspicion is not voluntary at the beginning, but its
continuation is optional, because it usually originates from a series of unreal
factors that cause such a supposition due to precipitancy and hurry in
judgement. Hence, one can soon avoid it through thinking and studying about the
matter, and subtilizing in different probabilities, and thus it is greatly
emphasized in the narrations and traditions that a man should try and do his
best for finding correct probabilities in the Moslems affairs, and avoid primary
perspectives.
Imam Ali
A.S. says:
«وَلا تَظُنَّنَّ بِكَلِمَة خَرَجَتْ مِنْ اَخِيكَ سُوءاً وَ
اَنْتَ تَجِدُ لَها فِي الْخَيْرِ مَحْمِلا».
Do not
suspect on the utterance, which you hear from your brother as far as you find a
proper way for it.(97)
Therefore,
only sudden hearty perspectives are out of will, but stable and durable
suspicion is a freewill affair, and this sense is completely compatible with the
appearance of the noble verse, traditions concerning forbiddance of suspicion.
Seemingly,
the phrase:
«كَذِّبْ سَمْعَكَ وَ بَصَرَكَ عَنْ اَخِيكَ».
Deny your
eye and ear about your brother.(98)
which is
narrated from Imam Sadegh A.S. addressing Mohammad Ebne Fosail, may refer to
attempt for finding proper senses and avoiding primary perspectives.
Methods of
treating suspicion
Now that the
meaning of forbiddance of suspicion is made clear, it is the time of referring
to the methods of treating it.
As we have
repeatedly said, we shall always seek the way of treating mental, physical and
moral diseases in the causes of their appearance.
On this
account, considering the discussion we made in respect to the sources and
factors of suspicion, we conclude that:
1- For
removing suspicion, first of all we shall engage in correcting ourselves so that
if we compare the others with ourselves, it does not cause assuming them vicious
and evil doer, and also when we are correcting ourselves, we shall remind always
this point to ourselves that it is not correct to assume the others like
ourselves. They may possess mentalities much superior and better than us. We
shall pay attention that self-comparison which may be one of the aspects of
man's self-love, has no logic and scientific foundation, and should not be
considered as the basis of our judgement about the others.
2- We shall
purify our environment which may be the source of our suspicion and mistrust,
and leave off association with the evil doers which may be the source of
suspicion on good doers, and note that such poisonous associations, in addition
to their other numerous disadvantages, darken the environment of our mind in
evaluation of personality of others, and lead us to great mistakes in
identification of individuals. These mistakes not only cause moral and spiritual
losses, but also deprive us from exploitation of mental and moral resources of
competent individuals due to suspicion.
If our
educational environment in the childhood has been unhealthy in this respect, we
shall wash away the effects of childhood period from our mind through suggestion
and studying the conditions of good doers, and association with the pure
persons, for compensation of the suggestions causing our present pessimism.
3- We shall
regularly envisage the individual and social losses of mistrust and the great
dangers threatening us and the society in this way, and repeatedly remember the
previous discussions which we had in this respect, and consider this reality
that if mistrust is temporarily effective in relieving our "sense of vengeance"
or "selfishness", and creates a false transitory peace in us, it has also
irrecoverable losses for us which are not comparable with its assumed
advantages.
4- If the
source of our suspicion and pessimism is moral deviations of others, malice and
selfishness, justification of our evil deeds and escaping the chastisement of
conscience, we shall become aware of these sources in our mental analysis, and
transfer these factors from the mind's unconscious stage to conscious stage.
Since this
point is very important in treating moral deviations that when incentives from
mind's unconscious stage influence on the deeds and thoughts of man, we shall
transfer them to conscious stage through psychoanalysis. It has a deep
impression in improvement of our status, and pay attention that this issue is
greatly discussed and concerned in the present psychoanalysis.
Reminder
At the end
of discussion about suspicion, it is noteworthy that suspicion and mistrust is
logical only when majority of individuals are deviated and corrupted in an
environment. In such case, one can not have good opinion on the dubious person
based on probabilities; because the possibility of corruption about each person
is more, but it should be notified that in such environments too, man shall not
take into consideration his suspicion save in what is concerned with
precautionary aspects. In other words, while observing necessary precautions,
one shall avoid affectation to the deeds with the savour of suspicion and
mistrust on the individuals, and this possibility should never be neglected that
the suspected person may be one of the righteous minority of the society, and
this attitude should be restricted to those vices which have involved majority
of society. But, in other cases, good opinion should be completely observed.
The famous
tradition narrated from Imam Ali A.S. may refer to the same reality, where it
says:
«اِذَا اسْتَوْلَى الْفَسادُ عَلَى الزَّمانِ فَاَحْسَنَ رَجُلٌ
الظَّنَّ بِرَجُل فَقَدْ غَرِرَ».
When
corruption breaks out at a time, good opinion of individuals to each other
causes being deceived.(99)